
Couples Therapy for Young Adults Navigating Trauma, Substance Misuse, and Cultural Identity
Telehealth in Colorado and PSYPACT Participating States
Love Isn’t Always Easy,
but It Doesn’t Have to Hurt
Relationships are hard enough without the added impact of trauma, addiction, cultural expectations, and differing cultural values. Maybe you and your partner keep having the same arguments over and over, or trust has been broken and rebuilding that credit feels impossible. Maybe one or both of you are struggling with substance use, and it’s disrupting your connection.
If you feel stuck in cycles of miscommunication, resentment, or emotional distance, couples therapy can help you break free.
When is it Time for Couples Therapy?
You love each other but can’t seem to stop fighting.
Substance use, past trauma, or mental health struggles are impacting your relationship.
You feel emotionally disconnected but don’t know how to fix it.
You come from different cultural backgrounds, and it’s creating tension.
You want to build a healthy relationship but didn’t have good role models growing up.
You want to know if staying together is worth it or if it’s really time to call it quits.
How Can Couples Therapy Help?
I work with couples where trauma, substance use, or cultural differences play a significant role. Instead of focusing on surface-level fixes, you’ll get to the heart of what’s driving conflict and work toward real, lasting change. My approach is person-centered and strengths-based at it’s core. I meets each couple where they’re at and work collaboratively to determine what changes they want to make.
You are the expert of your own life—you are the captain of the ship; I'm just helping you sail it and get where you want to go.
My approach to couples therapy is an integration of the following evidence-based treatment modalities:
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The way we show up in relationships is deeply influenced by our past experiences, attachment patterns, and unconscious beliefs about love and connection. Psychodynamic Psychotherapy helps partners uncover the deeper emotional wounds and relational patterns that may be driving conflict, disconnection, or unhealthy dynamics.
In couples therapy, psychodynamic work helps by:
Exploring How Past Relationships Shape the Present – Unresolved pain from childhood or past relationships often plays out in current partnerships. Therapy helps bring awareness to these patterns.
Uncovering Unspoken Needs and Fears – Many conflicts arise from unmet emotional needs that partners struggle to express. Therapy helps both partners articulate their deeper desires and fears.
Breaking Cycles of Defensiveness and Blame – When partners react rather than reflect, they may repeat the same fights without resolution. Therapy helps slow things down, fostering understanding over reactivity.
Strengthening Emotional Intimacy – By creating space for vulnerability and honest communication, psychodynamic therapy helps couples build deeper trust and connection.
Rather than focusing only on conflict resolution, psychodynamic couples therapy helps partners understand themselves and each other on a deeper level—leading to lasting change and emotional growth.
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Many couples get stuck in rigid thinking, emotional avoidance, or destructive patterns that make it hard to grow together. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) helps couples step out of these cycles by teaching them how to respond to challenges with greater flexibility, mindfulness, and values-driven action.
ACT in couples therapy helps by:
Breaking Free from Emotional Avoidance – Many couples struggle with expressing emotions out of fear of conflict or rejection. ACT helps partners learn how to sit with discomfort and communicate honestly.
Developing Psychological Flexibility – Instead of getting stuck in who’s right or wrong, ACT helps couples step back and ask, “What truly matters to us in this relationship?”
Clarifying Shared and Individual Values – Partners explore what they deeply care about and commit to actions that align with those values, even when emotions are difficult.
Changing the Relationship with Thoughts and Emotions – ACT teaches couples how to observe their thoughts without getting trapped in them, making space for connection rather than resentment.
Rather than focusing on winning arguments or avoiding discomfort, ACT helps couples choose connection, honesty, and intentional action—regardless of the challenges they face.
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At the core of every relationship struggle is a longing for connection, security, and emotional safety. When couples experience conflict, distance, or trust issues, it’s often because these core needs feel threatened. Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) helps partners repair emotional bonds and build a stronger, more resilient relationship.
In couples therapy, EFT helps by:
Identifying Negative Interaction Cycles – Every couple falls into patterns (e.g., one person withdraws, the other chases). EFT helps partners recognize these cycles and break free from them.
Creating a Safe Space for Vulnerability – Many couples struggle to express their deeper fears and emotions. EFT helps build a foundation where both partners feel safe to open up.
Strengthening Emotional Responsiveness – EFT helps couples move from reacting defensively to responding with understanding and care.
Healing Relationship Wounds – Whether from past betrayals, childhood attachment wounds, or unresolved pain, EFT helps partners repair and rebuild trust.
EFT focuses on emotions and connection first, rather than just communication skills—leading to deeper intimacy, trust, and long-term relationship satisfaction.
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For couples navigating cultural differences, intergenerational expectations, and systemic stressors, therapy isn’t just about communication—it’s about understanding identity, values, and the unique challenges of being in a cross-cultural relationship.
Multicultural Therapy helps by:
Addressing Cultural Conflicts in Relationships – Many couples face tension when family expectations, cultural norms, or traditions clash. Therapy helps partners navigate these challenges with respect and understanding.
Recognizing the Impact of Racial Trauma and Systemic Stress – External pressures, such as discrimination, financial stress, or immigration challenges, can strain relationships. Therapy provides a space to process these experiences together.
Balancing Individual and Collective Identity – Some partners come from cultures that emphasize family duty, emotional self-control, or traditional gender roles. Therapy helps couples find a balance between honoring culture and supporting personal growth.
Navigating Bicultural and Multiracial Relationships – For couples with different cultural backgrounds, therapy helps explore how identity, traditions, and values shape the relationship and how to embrace differences without losing connection.
Rather than forcing a one-size-fits-all relationship model, multicultural couples therapy honors your lived experiences, cultural values, and the unique ways love and partnership show up in your life.
Areas of Specialty
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Adolescents and young adults grappling with substance misuse often face multifaceted challenges that intersect with other mental health concerns such as trauma, depression, anxiety, and ADHD. Substance use may act as a coping mechanism for emotional pain, unresolved trauma, or unmet needs.
Moreover, seeking help for substance-related concerns can be particularly challenging for individuals from immigrant families where cultural values and stigma can complicate open conversations about addiction and mental health. Families may face additional barriers, such as fear of judgment or misunderstanding, which can create tension and further feelings of isolation.
Addressing substance use requires more than just focusing on the behavior itself—it involves exploring the underlying factors that contribute to it. Therapy helps individuals develop healthier coping strategies, understand their triggers, and build a life that aligns with their values. Therapeutic approaches that integrate evidence-based practices such as Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), harm reduction strategies, and emotionally focused therapy can address the root causes of substance use, while developing tools to cope with cravings, triggers, and difficult emotions that arise in recovery. Through this process, clients can rebuild trust, repair relationships, and work toward a meaningful, sustainable recovery.
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Trauma, whether acute or complex, often co-occurs with other mental health concerns, such as substance misuse, depression, and anxiety. Adolescents and young adults who experience trauma may struggle with emotional dysregulation, disconnection, and a pervasive sense of unsafety. For those from marginalized communities, systemic oppression and cultural factors may compound these experiences.
Therapy provides a space to process these experiences, restore a sense of safety, and develop tools for resilience. Culturally responsive, trauma-informed care acknowledges the unique ways trauma may intersect with cultural identity, systemic oppression, or intergenerational dynamics. Specialized trauma-informed care, utilizing Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Brainspotting, and Emotionally Focused Therapy can help individuals reconnect with their emotions, make sense of their experiences, and move toward healing. By recognizing the interconnectedness of trauma and other struggles, treatment can restore a sense of safety, connection, and empowerment while addressing the unique cultural context of each client’s experience.
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For adolescents and young adults, depression can feel isolating and all-encompassing. It often manifests as persistent feelings of hopelessness, low energy, difficulty concentrating, or withdrawing from relationships. Depression can affect every aspect of life, including school, work, and personal connections, often leaving individuals feeling misunderstood or stuck. Depression in adolescents and young adults often intersects with anxiety, trauma, ADHD, or substance misuse, creating a complex web of challenges.
Therapy offers a space to explore these feelings and identify unhelpful thought patterns that contribute to depression. It can help clients to connect with their values, develop practical coping tools, and foster self-compassion. Therapy can also addresses co-occurring challenges, such as trauma, anxiety, and ADHD, that may be coinciding with and amplifying the effects of depression. By focusing on building resilience and emotional understanding, therapy supports young people in finding hope and rediscovering joy in their lives.
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Anxiety is a common challenge for adolescents and young adults, often presenting as excessive worry, perfectionism, social discomfort, or avoidance. It can interfere with academics, relationships, and daily functioning, leaving individuals feeling stuck or overwhelmed. Perfectionism, excessive worry, and avoidance can often reflect deeper struggles with emotion regulation, attachment, or identity.
Therapy helps individuals identify and understand their anxiety triggers while developing tools to manage these feelings. Therapeutic techniques such as ACT, mindfulness, and exposure-based strategies empower clients to confront their fears, tolerate uncertainty, and shift their relationship with anxious thoughts and feelings. Therapy also explores the intersection of anxiety with other concerns, such as trauma, depression, or cultural stressors, to provide a more comprehensive approach. By creating a supportive and collaborative space, therapy helps individuals build confidence, resilience, and emotional regulation skills.
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Adolescents and young adults with ADHD often navigate challenges related to focus, impulsivity, emotional regulation, and time management. These difficulties can intersect with other mental health concerns, including anxiety, depression, trauma, and substance misuse. There is a strong relationship between untreated ADHD and substance misuse, as young people may learn to self-medicate to manage overwhelming symptoms, further complicating academic achievement, relationships, self-esteem, and daily functioning.
Therapy that embraces neurodivergence can help clients better understand their unique strengths and challenges while providing practical tools to manage the challenges they face. Through evidence-based approaches like behavioral strategies, mindfulness, and self-compassion practices, clients can learn to manage ADHD symptoms and build self-acceptance and -compassion. Parent coaching is also available to support families in fostering environments that promote success and understanding.
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Adolescents and young adults from marginalized communities often navigate the intersection of systemic oppression, cultural stigma, and identity conflicts, which can exacerbate mental health challenges like anxiety, depression, and trauma. Navigating systemic challenges such as racism, sexism, homophobia, xenophobia, and other forms of discrimination can take a toll on emotional well-being and can create feelings of invisibility, alienation, or internalized shame.
Therapy that centers cultural understanding and responsiveness can provide a safe space to explore these experiences and their impact on mental health. Addressing the intersection of cultural identity and systemic pressures can help individuals process feelings of exclusion, build self-worth, and develop strategies to manage and thrive despite adversity. Therapy can also guide clients in exploring their values and strengths, fostering resilience, and finding empowerment in their unique identities and lived experiences.
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Adolescents and young adults who live between cultures—whether as immigrants, refugees, or children of immigrants—often face unique identity struggles and can create challenges around belonging, self-definition, and balancing family expectations with individual goals.
Therapy can provide a supportive space to explore these experiences, helping individuals process feelings of cultural disconnection, intergenerational conflict, or identity confusion. With a focus on fostering self-acceptance and confidence, therapy can empower clients to navigate the complexities of living between cultures while finding strength in their multicultural identities. Therapy also addresses related challenges, such as discrimination, family pressures, or identity confusion, fostering confidence and clarity in navigating these complexities. Clients can also work through intergenerational dynamics, creating new paths for understanding and growth between family members.
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Early relational experiences deeply influence how adolescents and young adults form connections and navigate emotions. Attachment injuries—stemming from inconsistent caregiving, neglect, or relational trauma—can manifest as difficulty trusting others, emotional avoidance, or fear of rejection in relationships.
Therapy provides a space to identify and heal these relational patterns. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and mindfulness-based approaches help individuals develop healthier ways of connecting, rebuild trust, and work through fears of intimacy or vulnerability. Addressing attachment injuries also strengthens emotional regulation, offering young people the tools to foster secure and fulfilling relationships in the future.
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Parenting a teenager who is struggling with substance use can be uniquely challenging and often feels overwhelming, isolating, and stigmatizing. Many parents experience shame, guilt, or fear of judgment from others who may not understand the complexities of substance use in teens. They may feel blamed for their child’s struggles or worry they are failing as parents.
Therapeutic parent coaching provides a compassionate and nonjudgmental space to navigate these challenges. It focuses on helping parents understand the factors contributing to their teen’s substance use, such as underlying trauma, mental health concerns, or peer influences. Coaching also equips parents with effective strategies and tools to create a supportive home environment that promotes recovery.
By focusing on strengthening the parent-child relationship and addressing patterns of conflict or misunderstanding, parent coaching fosters trust, connection, and collaboration. It also provides parents with the emotional support they need to manage their own stress and cope with feelings of stigma or isolation. With the right guidance, parents can play a crucial role in their teen’s recovery journey while building resilience for their family as a whole.